Words of Comfort ~

You don't just know what to say do you? Trust me I totally understand this - but let me give you a few tips that may help you comfort not just me; but anyone in the same situation.

It is inevitable that during your life time, you will have a loved one die, it is the truth.
This is a fact!

Let's just hope it is not your child.

As I help you I help myself my experience and journey.

1. Don't ignore the situation or change the subject. Tell me the truth, tell me how you feel.
2. Ask me how I am feeling today.
3. Don't compare the death of a person to the death of a pet.
4. JUST DON'T compare at all. - it's doesn't fit the situation at hand.
5. Try to answer my questions, if you don't have an answer, don't make one up just say "I don't know." I will understand.
6. Don't ask me a million questions - unless I want you to. Believe me I will tell you.
7. Invite me to do fun things. (I think you can figure this one out!)
8. Stay with me quietly when I am sad or feeling lonesome ~
9. Don't watch the calendar to see how fast I am grieving. That calendar you are watching does not exist!
10. Understand this never goes away, send me a hug via email, poke me on face book. If you happen to stop by just give me a hug.
11. Sometimes, the fact that you know others just think about you makes you get through the day!

That's my story today, and I am sticking to it!

You have to read this to believe this ~

Such a sad thing that is happening today in our world and it has come down to this ~

It is so hard to make ends meet as it is - when I went to Dr. Keller blogspot and read his post it struck a cord please read the following post on his blog it is so sad ~

The senior citizens of our country are selling their cemetery plots.
What is this telling us?
What is this tell our children?
That we will have nothing left when we become old?

All we have worked hard for in our lives will be gone, the money, our homes, our financial future. What can we do?

I don't have a cemetery plot, I have nothing left, it was all spent to be able to survive. I can only rely on the government to help me, are they going to when I grow old?

She gave me strength ~

October 18th ~
Although her son is gone ~~ she is still so sad ~~ I give this post to my dear friend, who gave me strength with her words this past year ~~ who just listened to me weep that day on the phone in silence with her support ~~
I love you my dear friend ~ never ever forget that ~~ xoxo

Although this post can be interpreted in many ways ~ my intent is to try to comfort her and try to make her have a happy day ~
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Go placidly amid the noise and haste,
and remember what peace there may be in silence.
As far as possible without surrender
be on good terms with all persons.
Speak your truth quietly and clearly;
and listen to others,
even the dull and the ignorant;
they too have their story.
Avoid loud and aggressive persons,
they are vexations to the spirit.
If you compare yourself with others,
you may become vain and bitter;
for always there will be greater and lesser persons than yourself.
Enjoy your achievements as well as your plans.

Keep interested in your own career, however humble;
it is a real possession in the changing fortunes of time.
Exercise caution in your business affairs;
for the world is full of trickery.
But let this not blind you to what virtue there is;
many persons strive for high ideals;
and everywhere life is full of heroism.

Be yourself.
Especially, do not feign affection.
Neither be cynical about love;
for in the face of all aridity and disenchantment
it is as perennial as the grass.

Take kindly the counsel of the years,
gracefully surrendering the things of youth.
Nurture strength of spirit to shield you in sudden misfortune.
But do not distress yourself with dark imaginings.
Many fears are born of fatigue and loneliness.
Beyond a wholesome discipline,
be gentle with yourself.

You are a child of the universe,
no less than the trees and the stars;
you have a right to be here.
And whether or not it is clear to you,
no doubt the universe is unfolding as it should.

Therefore be at peace with God,
whatever you conceive Him to be,
and whatever your labors and aspirations,
in the noisy confusion of life keep peace with your soul.

With all its sham, drudgery, and broken dreams,
it is still a beautiful world.
Be cheerful.
Strive to be happy.

Max Ehrmann, Copyright 1952.

Madd ~

I read this ~ I cried ~ so I just copied and pasted this ~ from the coroner's blog today ~

Went to a Party Mom

I went to a party,
And remembered what you said.
You told me not to drink, Mom,
so I had a sprite instead.

I felt proud of myself,
The way you said I would,
that I didn't drink and drive,
though some friends said I should.

I made a healthy choice,
And your advice to me was right.
The party finally ended,
and the kids drove out of sight.

I got into my car,
Sure to get home in one piece.
I never knew what was coming, Mom,
something I expected least.

Now I'm lying o n the pavement,
And I hear the policeman say,
the kid that caused this wreck was drunk, Mom, his voice seems far away.

My own blood's all around me,
As I try hard not to cry.
I can hear the paramedic say,
this girl is going to die.

I'm sure the guy had no idea,
While he was flying high.
Because he chose to drink and drive,
now I would have to die.

So why do people do it, Mom
Knowing that it ruins lives?
And now the pain is cutting me,
like a hundred stabbing knives.

Tell sister not to be afraid, Mom
Tell daddy to be brave.
And when I go to heaven,
put ' Mommy's Girl' on my grave.

Someone should have taught him,
That it's wrong to drink and drive.
Maybe if his parents had,
I'd still be alive.

My breath is getting shorter,
Mom I'm getting really scared
These are my final moments,
and I'm so unprepared.

I wish that you could hold me Mom,
As I lie here and die.
I wish that I could say, 'I love you, Mom!'
So I love you and good-bye.

deep thoughts

thoughts~

damn jon its almost a year, i wish that would make it easier to try and talk to you but it doesn't, i wish it made me feel less guilty but it doesn't, i just hope whatever your at right now is awesome and your at peace with yourself, ya know for a long time after your funeral i havent thought about you but i keep your picture in my wallet and i hope what ever is going on now is better then how things were. i wish i could talk to you just one more time man just to tell you how much we cared about you, but alas man im sure ill see you some 60 70 years from now and everything will be back to normal

much much love~a friend

It hurts ~

It's starting ~ the reality is really hitting the kids - and it's okay, it just takes time.

"Its suppose to get better but day by day it get worse.
I'm suppose to miss you because I'm at college and your 170 miles north of me
not because you a gazillion and ten miles above me."

Martha Stewarts Contest

I posted Jon's Link on Martha Stewart's Blog - with hopes that she may just pass by!

I grabbed the following directly from a fellow artist and friend ~ check out her blog too!

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Here's the link to Martha's Blog .

And for all those newbies that this contest is going to bring to the blogosphere, a few words of advice:
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2) Check your spelling and word use. Sure we all have an off moment but if you consistently use there when you mean their or then when you really mean than, people are going to think you are a dummy...rightly so.

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